Right or Happy?

Let go of your ego’s need to be right. When you’re in the middle of an argument, ask yourself: Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the joyous, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened. -Wayne Dyer

Years ago a friend asked me if I would rather be right or happy. I honestly had to stop and think. Having been raised to believe that being right was happiness I had never considered otherwise, and I was embarrassed to admit it. Now, all these years later, I am amazed at how often I observe the desire to be right in myself and all over our culture. I am also amazed how incredibly freeing and peaceful it is to know that I can admit when I am not right and in fact let go completely of the need to be right.

This is definitely one of those journeys of progress not perfection for me. In fact, I crack myself up when I want to be perfect in this place. I catch myself, "Oh there I am wanting to be right again." I notice that it is really tied to thinking that when I am right I am safe. Being present to this awareness helps and I have found a little humor, mindfullness and a whole lot of patience and unconditional love go a long way on this journey.

Re-membering to Re-lease (part 2)

One thing that really helps make it easier to let go of control is feeling safe. Learning what makes you feel safe is a process. Sometimes we aren't even aware of the fact that we are feeling unsafe because we are so accustomed to being in that particular situation.

Journalling, talking with friends, meditating and just being open to possibilities help in the process of making choices that create the feeling of safety in our lives. Once we feel safe the need to control becomes less.

What situations, people and things make you feel safe? What action can you take today towards creating a safe and peaceful environment for yourself?