Turn It Around

Next time you are in a difficult spot try turning it around.  When you think something like, "This situation is out of control.  I need to control it."  Ask yourself, "Really, when I try to control a situation does it help?"  Actually it is the controlling that is causing the pain.  What if you just let the situation be, without trying to control it?

When you think something like, "I am afraid. I need to do something."  Ask yourself, "When I act from fear, how does that go?"  What if instead of doing something you chose not to do something for a moment?

Notice when you are propelled to change the outcome, manipulate the outcome.  Catching ourselves in those moments and choosing instead to be present first and active from the place of presence changes difficult situations into peaceful situations.

If your life has been full of difficult situation, you become present and you begin to experience peace, it may feel awkward.  This is a good sign.  Things have shifted towards what you really wanted when you thought you had to control it.  Peace is present.  You are present.  This is different than a life full of difficulty.  No wonder if feels awkward. Instead of turning away from the awkward feeling (which is the peace you now feel), what if you lean into it?

Re-membering to Re-lease (part 2)

One thing that really helps make it easier to let go of control is feeling safe. Learning what makes you feel safe is a process. Sometimes we aren't even aware of the fact that we are feeling unsafe because we are so accustomed to being in that particular situation.

Journalling, talking with friends, meditating and just being open to possibilities help in the process of making choices that create the feeling of safety in our lives. Once we feel safe the need to control becomes less.

What situations, people and things make you feel safe? What action can you take today towards creating a safe and peaceful environment for yourself?

Re-membering to Re-lease

While re-flecting on an Abraham Hicks video I watched yesterday, I had an awareness I am grateful I re-membered. The topic was how children with special needs can teach us that we can not change them - we cannot control them. As I thought about it I was thinking of all the times I have tried to control someone else, and failed.

I was re-minded of how miserable I was when I tried to control people, places and things around me. As I sat there pondering I had an "aha moment." Recently I have been experiencing a lot of serenity in my life, and every time I have been tempted to "figure it out," I have re-minded myself to just be. I have re-minded myself that if there is information for me to be aware of concerning this serenity it will come to me. That is exactly what happened.

Sitting there considering my serenity and the thoughts I had about trying to control things making me miserable I realized that lately I had let go of a lot of control. I had been catching myself when I want to control people places and things, and although I had not done it perfectly I had made the choice much sooner to re-lease control and let it be.

Ahhhhhhh, peace of mind.........

Two in One

Today I had an awareness while processing my thoughts and feelings out loud with a friend. When I feel off kilter and I hear myself saying, "I don't know. I just don't know," what is really going on for me is I'm not in control. Being in control gives me the illusion of feeling like "I do know."

What I have also noticed is that the times I had serenity is not when I was "in control," but rather when I was "in faith." Faith that it is all unfolding in the highest and best way, even when I don't see it, don't understand it or (believe it or not) don't like it.

So, how is this a two in one re-minder? It's two in one because, once again, I remembered that processing things out loud is often all I need to come back to a bit of wisdom I already have. Try it, I bet it will work for you, too.