Perfect Timing

A few months ago Grammy bought a book for me by an author I love, Sue Monk Kidd. Her book, "Secret Life of Bees" is in my top 10 novels list and I was looking for "The Mermaid Chair." We were at a great little used book store, B's Mountain of Books, and instead of "The Mermaid Chair" I found, "When the Heart Waits."

I promptly started reading and I just wasn't loving it. I've had this experience before with authors I enjoy, so acting on past experience I put the book down for awhile remembering sometimes the timing is just a little off for me.

At the time I had a lot going on in my life, and my original intuition to find a novel ("Heart Waits" is nonfiction) was just what I needed. I picked up "The Mermaid Chair" instead and it was like a good friend hanging out with me while I worked through some challenges.

The other day I picked up "When the Heart Waits" again, and it was perfect timing. It felt like a different book for me. I was reading and reading, and underlining and putting stars all over the page. I'm sure excerpts from this book will pop up in this blog soon!

This is such a good re-minder about timing and re-membering to let it be. There was a time in my life when I would have almost forced myself to read the book because I *know* there is something good here. I would have been disappointed and missed all the great stuff in the book.

Today's journal question:

Is there something in my life that I am struggling with that I could let go of for a time? If I don't want to let go, maybe it is helpful to re-mind myself I can pick it up again, and the timing might be better.

Re-membering to Re-lease (part 2)

One thing that really helps make it easier to let go of control is feeling safe. Learning what makes you feel safe is a process. Sometimes we aren't even aware of the fact that we are feeling unsafe because we are so accustomed to being in that particular situation.

Journalling, talking with friends, meditating and just being open to possibilities help in the process of making choices that create the feeling of safety in our lives. Once we feel safe the need to control becomes less.

What situations, people and things make you feel safe? What action can you take today towards creating a safe and peaceful environment for yourself?

Re-membering to Re-lease

While re-flecting on an Abraham Hicks video I watched yesterday, I had an awareness I am grateful I re-membered. The topic was how children with special needs can teach us that we can not change them - we cannot control them. As I thought about it I was thinking of all the times I have tried to control someone else, and failed.

I was re-minded of how miserable I was when I tried to control people, places and things around me. As I sat there pondering I had an "aha moment." Recently I have been experiencing a lot of serenity in my life, and every time I have been tempted to "figure it out," I have re-minded myself to just be. I have re-minded myself that if there is information for me to be aware of concerning this serenity it will come to me. That is exactly what happened.

Sitting there considering my serenity and the thoughts I had about trying to control things making me miserable I realized that lately I had let go of a lot of control. I had been catching myself when I want to control people places and things, and although I had not done it perfectly I had made the choice much sooner to re-lease control and let it be.

Ahhhhhhh, peace of mind.........

Let Go - Get What You Want

"I no longer presume to know how life should come or go: letting go in this way brings a sense of freedom." -Dan Millman, Wisdom of the Peaceful Warrior

If you've ever made plans for your life and had Life turn on a dime in the opposite direction of your plans, you can relate to this quote. When I read it I thought, how true.

As a coach I hear everyday how much we as people value freedom. This quote re-veals the secret to that freedom. Every day as I go about making my plans and letting go of the outcome, and watching as things unfold - sometimes as I planned and sometimes not at all as I planned (and sometimes it seems like it is never as I planned) - I notice that letting go of outcomes not only gives me freedom, but peace.

Those two go hand in hand for me. Think about it. Peace with out freedom? Freedom without peace? For me I want both. Whether things go as I planned or not I have re-alize that what I truly want is freedom and peace. What do you know? When I let go and go with the flow I get what I wanted no matter what I "get!"

The Hurry Habit

Slow down to go fast....

Hurry easily becomes a habit in our fast and furious society. Slowing down can be a challenge partly because in slowing down we must exercise our "no muscle." We must learn to say no to the things that get us going so quickly that we lose our peace and serenity.

It is fear that propels us to hurry. Fear that we won't get it finished, that we won't get enough or be enough. Fear of.....

Let go of your fear and become poised in knowing your greatness.

"Remember that poise and power are inseperably associated." - Wallace D. Wattles

When Be - Do - Have "Doesn't Work"

(Be Do Have part 3)

You might say, “Wait a minute!
You said the BE part is a given, and I am doing the DO part, so why am I not having the HAVE part?”

This is a common quandary. What happens is belief often gets in the way. Belief is the part of you that forgets or denies your BEINGNESS. So you can take action until you are blue in the face, and if your beliefs do not align with the basic beingness behind your goal you will find you are not getting the results you want.

So what to do? Identify and let go of the belief that does not serve you. Re-member the truth of your beingness and re-mind or affirm it for yourself.