Turn It Around

Next time you are in a difficult spot try turning it around.  When you think something like, "This situation is out of control.  I need to control it."  Ask yourself, "Really, when I try to control a situation does it help?"  Actually it is the controlling that is causing the pain.  What if you just let the situation be, without trying to control it?

When you think something like, "I am afraid. I need to do something."  Ask yourself, "When I act from fear, how does that go?"  What if instead of doing something you chose not to do something for a moment?

Notice when you are propelled to change the outcome, manipulate the outcome.  Catching ourselves in those moments and choosing instead to be present first and active from the place of presence changes difficult situations into peaceful situations.

If your life has been full of difficult situation, you become present and you begin to experience peace, it may feel awkward.  This is a good sign.  Things have shifted towards what you really wanted when you thought you had to control it.  Peace is present.  You are present.  This is different than a life full of difficulty.  No wonder if feels awkward. Instead of turning away from the awkward feeling (which is the peace you now feel), what if you lean into it?

Blame and the Four Lies

Look for places in your experience where you are blaming another.  Look for overt blaming and covert blaming.  Even look for blaming self.  In these places where we notice ourselves blaming, is an invitation to return to our core, the truth of our being.  In the three concentric circles we find blame in the outer circle where we experience life in the physical.  Sometimes it can be helpful in this illustration to even imagine another set of circles as the other person.  As we place our attention on the other person, the other set of concentric circles, it is easy to see that we are far from our core.  In the outer circle things like, "He did this!" or "She did that!" or even "I'm so ________, how could I do that?" are what we believe is the problem.

As we notice the next circle, the in-between circle we begin to see our beliefs.  These beliefs are the filters that filtered out our true being and changed the frequency in such a way that it manifests as what we now experience that we don't like.  In this circle, "He is mean. She is so self-centered. I am stupid." are the beliefs/the filters.  Lenedra Carroll in her book, The Architecture of All Abundance," illustrates these filters as the four great lies.

"We are bad.
We are not enough.
We are limited potential.
We are alone."

She goes on to point to our core, the center circle, the truth of our being, "When in reality the profound truth is:

"We are intrinsic goodness.
We are whole and complete just as we are.
We have the potential of our divine heritage.
We cannot be separated from our divine Source."

Once we begin to re-member this truth, we begin to experience what we believed we lacked when we were focused on blame. We begin to understand the belief in separation that caused our need to blame.  We return to our center circle we re-alize what she says next.

"The negative and false beliefs have seriously eroded our esteem and even convinced us that we are not lovable.  In fact, we are loved beyond our ability to comprehend it.  Love is not outside of us. Love is not our mother or father or lover.  Love is not our family or community.  Love, in truth, simply is.  Love is.  Love is the essence of the life force surrounding us; it is what allows everything to have cohesion.  Love is both our birthright and our legacy; it is in the original blueprint of our Soul."

In the presence of unconditional love, which is always present in the present, there is no blame, there is no difficulty to be solved, there is only love.  All that seemed like a problem, felt like hell, was out of alignment simply expresses without judgement, moves fluidly and returns to truth.