Today while emailing with a friend, I was re-minded of a little piece of Wisdom that has been so helpful to me over the years....
Don't compare your insides with someone elses outsides.
I have heard this over and over, yet I catch myself doing it all of the time. Almost every one I have ever talked to about this can relate. Today as I ponder this I am also re-minding myself not to compare the "inside" of today to the "outside" of tomorrow.
Any thoughts you might want to share on this?
Hi Tanya, I don't get it. what am i missing? i understand the thing about comparing external circumstances but what's the inside v outside? please rephrase if you can. : )
ReplyDeleteJoann,
ReplyDeleteWhen I was emailing with my friend earlier today I was remembering not to compare our internal circumstances to what we see externally going on with someone else. As I pondered that through out my day I later realized it also applies to when I am comparing where I am today with what I think will happen in the future.
I compare the dream of "someday" to what I am experiencing now. What is happening in my now is so "real" compared to what I think about the future which is not even here yet, and therefore not real - not a realistic comparison.
Does this help? Mostly when I wrote the re-minder I meant to share a snippet of my experience to simply be a spring board for your own thoughts and interpretations.
I have had a couple of other comments that people emailed to me directly that may have been helpful to you. I am hoping more people will comment here on line as I think it is such a benefit to get different perspectives. Thank you for your comment and questions!
Before I read your post I was pondering earlier how important it is to commit to the things that "I" love, not what others have created for themselves that I think are really cool and that they love. I was noticing if I compare "my inner" with "there outer" (to use your words) I cannot commit to anything of my own and end up sampling someone else's ideas of life instead of living fully in my own. Then I read your post and found my thoughts summerized up by how well you put it. Thanks for expanding the insight. I love your writing!
ReplyDeleteValerie,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment. I can so relate to "sampling someone else's ideas of life." I like how you put that. You have inspired me to go around sampling my own ideas of life!
Thanks again!
Tanya
So am I correct to say the gist is this: avoid comparing how I view my life - usually something I feel less than great about - with what I can see externally in the life of another - usually something I feel inferior about or envious of. But really, as I don't see the entire picture of their life, it's best not to assume every single aspect of their life is perfect in the extreme, an my life by comparison is less than. ??
ReplyDeleteYes, I think that is it! Well put!
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