Letting Go To Know

Sometimes it may seem impossible or at least agonizing to live with not knowing what's next, or what to do or what if.  Letting go of that can seem like a feat beyond our understanding.  How do you let go?  Willingness is the first step.  Being willing or at least being willing to be willing will help us to  move in that direction.  If we are not willing we can ask ourselves what is keeping me from being willing to let go of the need to know?

The answer to that question is usually some form of fear and it often shows up as the need to control.  Some part of us knows we really can't control all outcomes, but we like to think we can at least try!  The truth is the more we can let go and listen to our inner guidance system the more peace we will experience in the process and the "answers" can come to us as we are now peaceful enough to hear them.

"But I can't let go! It keeps whirling around in my head no matter what I do!"  Then let it whirl and focus your attention on the next thing in front of you.  The answers will come, they always do.

Unfold

Someone once shared with me that when we are feeling the urge to control something we could just wait and see what happens instead. This does not mean we can't take action. It simply means that we can respond by listening to our heart instead of reacting from a feeling of fear.

It reminds me a little of a time out. Taking just a little time to step back from the situation. Maybe we just need time to breathe. Maybe we just need time to think. Maybe we just need time to clear our head. Whatever it is, it is much easier to respond once we've taken this little bit of time.

In this way we allow our lives to unfold. We take action in a more peaceful serene way and our lives begin to look like what we had hoped for all along.

Bloom Where You Are Planted

My mom taught me this quote many years ago.  I am truly grateful.  It has been a quote that has been close to my heart since then.  Daisies always remind me of my mom and this quote.  They were her favorite flowers.

Over the years I have had more than one time to meditate on this quote.  Over the years it has helped me to find inner peace, joy and serenity in the good times, the not so good times and the down right not at all good times.

Sometimes it was not easy for me to bloom where I was planted and I would even catch myself thinking, I can't bloom here. I began to realize I can also plant myself were I can bloom. This was super helpful and I would make a conscious choice to "plant myself where I can bloom in the first place."  Other times I would find no way to "plant" myself where I could bloom.  Like the Jerry McGuire quote, "Show me the money," I would yell out, "Show me the beauty!!"  Even when I thought there was no beauty to be shown - it worked.

I pass this helpful tool from my mom to you.

Be + Do = Have

Whether you want financial abundance or joy, this equation works every time. If it isn't working in your life, one question is who am I being? What keeps me from being what I want?

Be financial abundance + Do financial abundance = Have financial abundance

Be joy + Do joy + Have joy

Agree or Not

I am an advocate of agreeing to disagree.  You don't even have to do that to be kind to one another.  I love it.  There are few if any prerequisites to being kind.  The only thing I can think of is that it is pretty difficult to be kind to another if you are unable to be kind to yourself.

Re-Directed

The first time I learned this I was in 8th grade. My dad had told me something similar to this same thing. I didn't believe him, and would have rolled my eyes at him if I hadn't been taught not to do such things. When it turned out that what I was being rejected from was actually redirecting me to meeting my best friend all through high school I never wanted to roll my eyes at my dad again. This has turned out to be true for me more times than I can count.

For years my girls have asked me to make a wish list at Christmas time.  Every year I have put peace of mind at the top of this list.  This past year as I was considering my list I realized I have peace of mind much more than I don't.  It was cause for me to stop a moment and contemplate.  Here are a few of the things that I think greatly contribute to peace of mind.

Health of body, mind and spirit - What am I doing to take care of my physical health.  Are there things that need my attention?  How do I stinulate and nurture my mind?  Do I read things of interest? Is there a class I have been wanting to take?  Whether or not I am religious, how do I care for my spirit?  Do I spend time in nature?  Do I have a spiritual routine?

Mindfulness - How often do I live in the present moment?  Am I present to myself? Am I present in my relationships? How can I become more present? Now is how.

Acceptance - What is acceptance? What in my life needs my acceptance?  How do I accept the things that are difficult to accept? What is unacceptable?  How do I distinguish between what is unacceptable and what I don't want to accept?

Authenticity -  Am I being true to myself? Who am I authentically?

Values - What are my values?  What do I value most?  How do I determine my priorities?

Fun - What is fun for me?  How do I have fun with the most important people in my life?  What keeps me from having fun in my life?

Gratitude - What am I grateful for?  How can I incorporate gratitude into my daily life.

Focus - What do I focus on in my life?  What am I focussed on right now?  Is my focus from moment to moment bringing me peace of mind? How do I focus on what brings me peace of mind?

Surround yourself with peaceful people.



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