Blame

"Unconsciously, we also feel guilt, regret, and shame because, by blaming another, we betray ourselves.  We betray and disempower ourselves by inadvertently declaring we are enslaved by circumstances beyond our control." - Michael Brown, The Presence Process.

Wow.

So how do we empower ourselves?

By taking responsibility - Response Ability.  We respond instead of react.  We do this by observing our feelings and responding to them by feeling them in a loving, patient and totally unconditional way.  This takes time.  I find that patience is a key to this process. 

With each unconditional response we feel, we return to empowered peace.